HOW MANY THERAPIES ARE THERE?

Michael HoffmanSelf-Improvement, TherapyLeave a Comment

You can take your pick from ancient pagan rituals designed to appeal to the gods to modern electroencephalographic machinery (yes, there is a gadget that shoots magnetic impulses into your brain!).  A heavily researched list would be too long and too impractical to write or read.  You probably just want to know what’s most available to you here and now. FACT:  There is no relationship between insurance coverage and therapeutic effectiveness. FACT:  The modern word therapy comes from Latin meaning “to tend to and care for the soul."  Just remember that next time some therapist insists that you have to ... Read More

BE MINDFUL OF THE BOGUS LOVE SYNDROME – Part 2

Michael HoffmanAddiction, Love IssuesLeave a Comment

When you believe you have a stable relationship because intimate interaction with someone is lighting your fire, you’re often completely unconscious of the facts. Here’s how Bogus Love Syndrome (BLS) operates psychologically. In any relationship, all you really know for sure is how you think and feel. You have absolutely no control over how the other person feels or behaves. Your alleged partner, the pretender, probably perceives the relationship in a completely different way. You persist in projecting positive qualities onto the pretender that he/she doesn’t really possess. These projections are nothing but thoughts; not tangible realities. Meanwhile, the pretender ... Read More

BE MINDFUL OF THE BOGUS LOVE SYNDROME (BLS) – Part 1

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Most of us have suffered the agony and embarrassment of getting dumped in a one-way romance. We hate to admit that while we adored these people, they are just pretending to love us. The bogus love they put on display was nothing more than a pathological syndrome built of many misanthropic, narcissistic and dishonest games. Don’t volunteer to be victimized by the delusional, romantic, oxytocin unconsciousness of the Bogus Love Syndrome. Pay precise, mindful attention to every little thing the pretender does and doesn’t do, what the pretender says and doesn’t say. Notice how the pretender’s behavior makes you think ... Read More

BECOME CONSCIOUS…OR THIS HAPPENS

Michael HoffmanConsciousness, MindfulnessLeave a Comment

I wanted to feel safe, but I was afraid. I wanted to be big, but I was small. I wanted to be strong, but I was weak. I wanted to heal, but I killed. I wanted to be soft, but I grew hard. I wanted to be compassionate, but I was critical. I wanted to be normal, but I was odd. I wanted acceptance, but I got rejection. I wanted forgiveness, but I got punished. I wanted to be heard, but nobody listened. I wanted be acknowledged, but I was ignored. I wanted to be loved, but I was abandoned. ... Read More

EMERGENCY MEDITATION

Michael HoffmanAnxiety, Meditation, MindfulnessLeave a Comment

Learn two emergency meditation techniques that will help you deal with tough, anxious situations – and you don't have to be sitting on your meditation cushion to use them!Maybe vipassana mindfulness meditation teachers don’t explain this correctly to newcomers, but you’re supposed to learn to be mindful 100% of the time. Sometimes the relief you get from early meditation experience is so pleasant that you think that it will only happen when you are doing your formal meditation practice. Not true! If you meditate consistently, you will start feeling that calm state of mind and body at other times. When ... Read More

BEST PRACTICE TIPS FOR BEGINNING MEDITATORS

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Learn the most important tips for getting the most out of your Sober Buddha vipassana meditation practice. Don't forget -- you'll benefit in exact proportion to how consistently you practice!Adding a vipassana meditation practice can change your life forever. You’ll un-stress, learn to concentrate, handle problems more easily and generally be much happier, more productive person. For Sober Buddha Counseling students, here are important tips for getting the most out of your practice. Remember, you will benefit in exact proportion to how consistently you practice. 1. Meditate 20 minutes a day to start. When you are comfortable, go to 30 ... Read More

CARL JUNG ON NOISE IN MODERN TIMES

Michael HoffmanPsychotherapyLeave a Comment

Swiss psychologist Carl Jung wrote this letter to a colleague in September, 1957. Jung had spent decades investigating the depths of the human imagination and was particularly uncomfortable with what he considered the invasiveness of modern technology. Just imagine how he’d feel about today’s digital obsessions! Dear Professor Oftinger: Unfortunately I am so old and tired that I am no longer able comply with your wish. You maybe assured, however, that I have every sympathy with your project and understand it only too well. I personally detest noise and flee it whenever and wherever possible, because it only disturbs the ... Read More

POWER TO THE NON-CONFORMISTS!

Michael HoffmanPersonal Growth, TherapyLeave a Comment

From now on you better be careful not to question authority too much. Don't express a negative attitude even when faced with absurd rules and regulations. Don't defy anyone above your pay scale even when you have the moral high ground. Never argue, and definitely don't let anyone know you're annoyed even when you have a right to be upset. With the exception of neurologically-damaged persons, nobody is ever permanently stuck in any state of mind or emotion. To call someone "bad" because of a stage of development they are going through is a psychological crime.Michael Hoffman, Sober Buddha CounselingIf ... Read More

AHA! SPRAY FOR PSYCHOTHERAPY PATIENTS

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Do you and your therapist suffer end-of-the-day burnout when it’s time for your 6:00 p.m. appointment? Have stress and compassion fatigue left you both flat? Do you get the feeling that neither of you really wants to be there? What can you do when four cups of coffee, three Red Bulls and deep yoga breathing techniques just don’t perk you up? Aha! Spray solves the problem of therapy fatigue and boredom. This pocket-sized, mind-altering aerosol spray puts the intellectual thrill and emotional depth back into therapy by instantly entering the nasal passages and accelerating the production of energetic thinking neuropeptides ... Read More

20 WORST EXCUSES EVER FOR NOT MEDITATING

Michael HoffmanMeditationLeave a Comment

I want to finish my "Scandal" marathon on Netflix first. It's from Satan. The Adderall makes me too jittery to sit still. The kids keep interrupting me. My husband said it's a fad. I don't believe what Anderson Cooper said about it on 60 Minutes. I've been meditating every day for three months, and I'm still not enlightened. Going to the gym makes me feel better. Health insurance doesn't cover it. Yoga's better for you, isn't it? I thought vipassana was a kind of Italian sausage. I heard you have to become a vegetarian. Let me see if cognitive-behavioral therapy ... Read More